Today I turn 21, and no I’m not being sad and just blogging on my birthday – I’m currently writing this on a turbulent plane on the way to Kefalonia in Greece and scheduling it so you lovely souls get to read it!
Now let me tell you, I am not an all wise owl who can see into the future, but I do have some amount of common sense thats managed to make me survive the last 21 years. I’ve had a ridiculous amount of good and bad luck and, as always, life lessons always ensue.
So here are the 21 things I have learnt at the ripe old age of 21.
Believe in you and all you can do. This is one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn, from the ages of around 17 until recently I had no self belief. Thought I was undeserving of love and anything positive. No one else will believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself.
It’s okay to have fears. I’m still scared of butterflies… or anything that flies minus birds for that matter. I am convinced I will never sky dive or bungee jump, but hey, that’s what makes me human. Just because I’m legally an adult doesn’t mean I suddenly need to be fearless (although Andy seems to think otherwise!)
It’s okay to have a toddler sized mental breakdown over the smallest thing. Sometimes things just build up and it’s okay to have a meltdown and cry once and again – it’s good for the soul.
Naps are the best thing known to man. I am convinced I will still be 30 and having naps. I cannot be productive without one and I refuse to go without one or I will slowly turn insane. Sleep is also good for your soul.
Avocados are not that great, no matter what anyone tells you. Guacamole is the shit but whoever eats avocado on toast must have superman heightened taste buds and be tasting something more magical than me.
Some people are immature and too self conscious of themselves so find the need to start silly dramas. Distance yourself from these people, they’re not worth the time or hassle trying to explain yourself or make things right. Surround yourself with people who laugh at the drama not with it.
Everything is done on your time frame – not anyone else. So what you’re 30 and everyone else is married and having kids around you? Don’t feel rushed to fit into everyone else’s time frame because it just won’t suit you.
Sharing your life with someone is great. Whether it be your other half or friends. Travelling, living and being around your favourite person/s is great.
It takes bloody eternity to save up for a house. Why are mortgages so damn expensive? Why is it so hard to get approved? Why are house prices increasing when no one can afford the ones already there? So many questions that I will never find the answer for.
School really was the best years of your life. I’m sorry mum for the eye rolls when you used to say it. I miss having zero responsibilities and everything handed to me on a plate – don’t miss some of the people so much though 😉
You are worthy of a love that is unfaltering, catastrophic and epically beautiful. Once you find your person you realise there is so much good in the world. Someone can love you even if you’re broken.
Life is so short so make the most of it. I ended up losing 5 close family members in 2 years, some completely unexpected and sudden. Take life by the horns and just go with it.
Your friend group decreases massively after school. Those who remain are practically your soulmates in female form.
Take care of yourself. Body and mind. Fuel your body with good healthy food, do some yoga, take time off your phone, have a bath, do everything you can whenever you can to fuel your mind and condition your body. You only have one.
Nando’s perinase is the best thing that has ever graced the earth and should be applied to every savoury food.
Travelling is probably the best thing you can do in your life. Whether you plan a trip at 50 or at 18, do it. See this world before it’s gone. Have stories to tell your grandkids about far away places that fuel their wanderlust. Just go do it.
As point two stated, it’s okay to have fears, but it’s bloody awesome when you overcome them. I went on a plane without having an anxiety attack today, currently writing this during turbulence and leisurely looking out of a window seat. Once you tackle it straight on it becomes your biggest strength… until the adrenaline wears off and you’re terrified again!
Always use the 21/90 rule in life. It takes 21 days to change a habit and 90 days to change a lifestyle. Never give up and allow yourself and your body to make mistakes.
Going to the gym actually does help anxiety. A year ago from this date I was having meltdowns so frequently over the tiniest things and now life seems so much more positive and the little noise in the back of my head is so much quieter. Take it from the girl who hated the gym and can now happily spend an hour.
Wearing matching underwear really does make your life complete. Guarantee all these go getter women have matching underwear on, it makes you feel like you can accomplish anything.
“I thought life was easy peezy lemon squeezy but it’s actually difficult difficult lemon difficult”. Life will not give you a pass or slow down for you to cope. Life literally doesn’t give a shit, but you know what? That’s where your challenge lies. Every bad situation will always have a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if it seems really dim and theres no way out. There is always a hidden door, you’ve just got to find it.